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Why You Should Stop Rushing (Your Brain is Tricking You)

The adrenaline hit me like a slap in the face. I had slept through my alarm…again.

I developed the unfortunate habit of sleeping through my alarm while studying in Copenhagen, Denmark.

It led me to miss half of a mid-term exam. And I nearly missed a bus departure for a weeklong class trip!

Everyone has their own version of this story, feeling behind during an important situation. Trying to “catch up” is a stressful experience!

Whenever I slept through an alarm, I would leap out of bed and start rushing around like a madman.

In the moment, rushing feels like the only way to remedy the situation.

“I’m running behind, so I need to rush to catch up!”

But in reality, rushing to “catch up” is rarely worth it!

The amount you “catch up” pales in comparison to the added stress you create by rushing.

The Myth of “Catching Up” (And why the Odds are Stacked Against You)

Rushing is a simple exchange, with inputs and outputs.

You put something in (extra physical and mental energy) to achieve a result (“catching up”).

But the positive results from rushing are marginal at best. You never truly catch up!

And the cost for acquiring those marginal benefits significantly outweighs their benefit.

Let’s say you’re running late to a meeting and decide to speed on your way there. Instead of going the 60mph speed limit, you push it to 72mph. What used to take you 15 minutes now only took about 12.

But saving those precious three minutes costs you significantly. You’re putting yourself at greater risk for physical harm (crash), mental harm (stress), and financial harm (speeding ticket).

Rushing adds stress and anxiety to your life. Over time, this can make a big difference in your default mental state.

Even if it doesn’t feel significant in the moment, the difference between a peaceful mind and a somewhat stressed mind is significant. It impacts everyone around you as well.

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The stress of needing to act quickly can be worth it when your wellbeing is threatened…But in modern times, those situations are few and far between.

With that in mind, why don’t you bat an eye when you see coworkers frantically rushing around the office? Why is rushing so commonplace?

The Brain that Cried Wolf

The modern brain is poorly calibrated to understand threats.

This has nothing to do with your intelligence. It’s a natural byproduct of human evolution.

Fear’s role is to motivate you to act swiftly to prevent a threat to your wellbeing. But in today’s society, most people don’t experience situations with legitimately harsh consequences.

Our distant ancestors faced frequent threats from wild animals, unforgiving elements, and warring enemies. Modern man’s most common “threats” involve nothing more than short-term emotional or physical discomfort .

Your brain has new inputs in today’s world, but the operating system is the same as our “caveman” ancestors.

This is why rushing around is so commonplace in modern society. Situations with minor consequences feel significant in the absence of anything more dangerous.

The result: unnecessarily elevated levels of stress and anxiety.

You fear the consequences of “falling behind” at work, so you work frantically to try and make up for it. You fear what will happen if you arrive a few minutes late to something, and drive aggressively to get their faster.

Both of these scenarios exemplify the stacked equation of rushing. The marginal gains in either case aren’t worth the added stress.

This isn’t to say that working quickly is never worth it. Sometimes it’s necessary. But it should come from a place of genuine inspiration and internal motivation, not fear.

Letting fear take over on a regular basis is unnecessary and harmful to you and those around you.

Fortunately, there are a host of ways to take control in these situations! You can learn to understand when it’s worthwhile to rush.

3 Situations to Cultivate Awareness and Reduce Stress

Awareness is your antidote to unnecessary stress.

When you pause to identify the real consequences of everyday fears (rejection, “falling behind”, running late, etc.) you give yourself the opportunity to act intentionally.

Instead of letting fear take over, you understand when the consequences of rushing won’t be worth the added stress.

Here are three different situations where you can cultivate awareness to minimize rushing and reduce stress:

In the moment Cultivate awareness and notice when you start to rush. Take a minute to pause and evaluate your scenario.

Think through the benefits and consequences of rushing by asking yourself two questions:

• What’s the worst that could happen if I act normally, and don’t rush? This tends to be surprisingly insignificant. (e.g. “My friend will be by themselves for 10 minutes.” or “I get a little embarrassed for 30 seconds.”)
• What are the best and worst-case scenarios if I choose to rush?
The best will likely be a marginal improvement from acting normally, while the worst may be significant. (e.g. Best: You arrive at my destination 5 minutes earlier. Worst: You get a speeding ticket or get in a crash.)

In preparation It’s easy to feel behind when you’ve lost control of your schedule. This lack of control is often a matter of priority. It’s a sign that you’ve let too many commitments into your life that don’t align with what matters to you.

Give yourself more control with these three strategies:

• Start saying “no”
 Take control of your schedule by saying “no” to more things. Spend your time on things that you value. (Use the 20 Minute Life Check to get started here.)
• Organize to-do’s by urgency and priority This framework was popularized by Stephen Covey (author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) and used by President Dwight Eisenhower . It will help you focus on the right tasks by identifying what’s actually important.
• Cultivate space Create space in your day by scheduling short breaks to reflect or give your mind a break. Active reflection time and subconscious processing time are critical to doing your best work.

After the fact Reflect on the times when you do choose to rush.

Ask yourself: Was it worthwhile? Why or why not?

Hindsight is 20/20, so use it to calibrate your sense of urgency for future scenarios.

Vanquish Insignificant Fears to Live With Intention

Modern society has it’s legitimate dangers. But most common fears have insignificant consequences.

Conquer your fear of falling behind by staying present to the true consequences of your actions.

Some of the best advice I’ve ever received came from a friend in a three word text when I was running late.

“Sweet, no rush .”

Next time you’re running late or feel behind at work, take a minute to breath and find your center. Then, evaluate your scenario, and act accordingly.

The world will be a better place when you do!

Rushing Through Life

How slowing down can help us find more time..

Posted November 9, 2015

Time. Despite all the planning, scheduling and multitasking, for so many of us there never seems to be enough of it. Planning a daily agenda during our morning commute to work, paying online bills while walking a dog, and checking news and responding to e-mails during the kids’ soccer practice is the new normal in our society. We run non-stop around the clock, dividing our attention among millions of things, constantly checking our watches and scrambling for more time. Every day feels a lot like one long rush hour.

Just look at how fast people drive these days! So many drivers go 40-45 mph in a 30 mph zone without batting an eyelash, one could wonder whether the speed limit signs are more of a suggestion than a state law. In the search for more time in a day we rush everywhere, oftentimes out of habit, pushing on the gas pedal a bit too hard even when there is no problem or emergency that requires our immediate attention. Daily traffic is one of the things that exasperates people the most these days. Moving slowly is tantamount to wasting time for a lot of busy people, and so many drivers tend to quickly lose their cool — blow their horns and shout curses at the person in front of them — when stuck in a stream of heavy traffic. All that irritation and anger do not make cars move any faster or help us reach our next destination any sooner; they do, however, add more stress to our already stressful lives.

Do we ever stop to even ask ourselves why we are rushing from one place to another and checking things off the “to do” lists? Our future-focused mentality and an acute need to get there quickly and do as much as we can once we’re there are not just one-time experiences, they have become deeply embedded into our culture. The culture that celebrates its overachievers and ambitious high flyers, the culture that devoutly follows a “time is money” credo, the culture in which growth, development and progress are expected to happen in the blink of an eye.

Technology, once expected to give us more time, seems to steal from us too. It has created the many distractions and time traps that waste so much of our time. The proliferation of the internet and the World Wide Web has placed a wealth of information right at the tips of our fingers, opened up countless opportunities and created millions of choices for us to evaluate and consider on a daily basis. Who can really ever finish reading all the posts on their Facebook feed or check all of their Instagram updates?

It’s not all bad though. The ability to multitask is an essential skill that is very much in demand in today’s busy world. But research shows that chronic multitasking does not always lead to the most effective use of time, and in fact sometimes it creates more mistakes. The emotional impact is great, too – the impatience and short temper we may have assumed may cause us extra stress and place our physical and mental well-being in jeopardy: Chronic stress has long since been linked to attention loss, elevated blood pressure and increased risk of heart attack .

If you want to slow down and take some of your life back in the midst of the rush all around you, consider trying one (or more) of these five approaches:

• Drive the speed limit (Crazy, right? But effective). If you are afraid that you might be late, leave a bit earlier in order to give yourself enough time to get where you are going at a slower, more relaxed pace. Don’t rush out of habit, don’t go over the speed limit just because everyone else does. Try driving in a slower lane and stopping on every single yellow light, and don’t just slow down — stop at the STOP sign; those two seconds won’t help you reach your destination much faster, yet they will keep you safe on the road.
• Catch yourself rushing and slow down on purpose. Not everything needs your immediate attention, not everything must be finished in record time. Take a deep breath and try to appreciate the moment that you are in right now. Look around and find something to remember about it. Life is made out of the moments like that, so don’t miss them. Sometimes things will go unfinished, and that’s okay too; devote enough time to your priorities, so that you don’t have to rush through them, and the rest will happen in its own time.
• Adopt a new mantra of “I can do one thing at a time – let me focus on what that will be.” Oftentimes we feel rushed because we take on more than is realistically in our power to manage. Even our minds can get cluttered from trying to think of and plan for multiple projects at the same time. Learn where your limits lie, and don’t try to bite off more than you can chew. Put aside multitasking for a while and STOP. Then try to just work on finishing whatever is in front of you, one thing at a time.
• Prioritize your tasks. Since not everything that you need to do is equally urgent or important, a “priority list” is a much more efficient way to go about your day than the avreage “to do” list. Don’t overload it. Pick three to five tasks that you would like to accomplish every day and give yourself a little extra time to complete them. Don’t let yourself get distracted or sidetracked by things that are not on your priority list; you know that they are less relevant and, therefore, can wait.
• Limit screen time . Before watching a program or going to your favorite website or social media network, decide on how much time you can give yourself for that activity, and once your time is up exit, sign out, log off, etc. Have a curfew for web browsing and avoid the temptation to respond to emails as soon as they come: Immediately answering every email will cause people to assume that you are available 24/7 and that they can bother you even during your time off. Resolve not to use electronics whenever you are bored or trying to relax, and instead opt for a face-to-face conversation with a friend or family member, go out, read a book, listen to some music or take on that project that you were planning to undertake ages ago. Whatever you elect to do, remain present throughout that task or activity in order to get the most value from it.

Beverly D. Flaxington teaches at Suffolk University.

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Don’t Rush Into Things

We all can be impatient. I’m not this way in all situations thankfully, but it happens enough for me to be self-aware about it. For instance, I cannot stand slow drivers or traffic. I’m so impatient when I’m in the driver’s seat, even if I don’t have a set time to arrive at my destination. I apologize in advance to those who ride in my car with me.

All jokes aside, there are some serious life moments when being impatient can stink. And just like every other human, they happen to me from time to time. Some people rush into relationships too soon after a breakup (been there, done that), some people rush to have kids right after marriage (definitely won’t be me) and some people take job offers that might not be right for them just because they want the title or salary.

After graduating college, I found a job near my hometown and worked there for almost 2 years while living at home to save money. My boyfriend James did the same thing, but in his home town. We were 3 hours away from each other for almost 2 years. While it wasn’t easy, we didn’t want to rush into things by moving in together too soon or switching jobs at such an early point in our careers. While the distance wasn’t fun, we both knew that one day when the time was right, we would live together.

For me, this is where my impatience became an issue. I’d have a bad day at work and complain to him about how I wanted to find another job closer to him. Or he’d get upset that it had been a month since we’d seen each other, and that would affect our moods. But he, and plenty of other people in my life, always reminded me to be patient. Things will happen when they are supposed to.

Along the way, there were countless ups and downs. I’d hear back from a company about what I thought was my dream job, only to be let down by the salary, hours, or position. I realized that maybe some of these opportunities weren’t meant for me, and that I was forcing myself to like the job just so I could move. I was rushing into things without even realizing it, and wasn’t able to control it.

After this happened a few times, I took on a new attitude. I was at a point in my life where I was focusing on my mental health and happiness, and I found a new mantra. “Don’t rush anything. When the time is right, it will happen”. Although the old me would have scoffed and rolled my eyes if I saw someone share this quote, I realized how true it really was. I began to focus less on when the future would happen and focus more on how to make the most of the now.

Then, when I least expected it, an amazing opportunity came along. Things fell into place. I was financially ready to move, mentally ready to live with a significant other, and I found a job opportunity at a company that really valued me. The next time I find myself being impatient, I will remind myself of the 2 years I struggled and how things became great when the time was right.

Do you tend to rush into certain things? How do you deal with it?

Rachel has been blogging since 2012 on all things lifestyle, beauty, fashion, home, and more. She's a 30-something Content Marketing Manager by day and lifestyle blogger by night. She lives in northern NJ with her family.

45 Comments

I’ve been there and your new mantra is on point. I’ve rushed into a relationship and so on and it always ended being a disaster. So my approach is if it’s meant to be it will happen otherwise just let it go.

yes- that’s the worst!

I can be very impatient, especially when it comes to things that I’m passionate about, but I try my best to live a similar attitude. A lot of things in life aren’t up to me and I can’t control them! Letting go of that is hard but very worth it.

guiltyyyyy. But it really all seems worth it when you wait and maybe suffer a little bit but totally get the best result! Jenn With Luck Blog

I am one of those people that over analyzes everything so I’m not one to rush into things. Driving is a different story though 🙂

We rush into a lot of things. It’s almost like a joke to us now! Great post.

This is true, things will happen when they are meant to! But I totally try to rush things all the time because I am also impatient. I’m glad everything worked out for you and your boyfriend! 🙂 I’m sure now it was worth the wait to move in together and be with each other all the time!

You put into words what I’ve been thinking a lot about lately. There have been so many times where I wanted to rush into something, but am so glad I didn’t, because I probably wouldn’t like the situation now! Nice post 🙂

So glad you can relate! 🙂

Such perfect advice. I used to rush everything. Life really has a natural rhythm and if you just allow it to unfold in the way it’s supposed to, every piece falls into place perfectly.

I am sooo impatient and I’ve learned this the hard way myself! This is great advice!

I’m really impatient when it comes to things like this too. But I’ve been working on telling myself that things will happen when the time is right. Most of the time, it’s sooo true. But hindsight is always 20/20! 🙂

So true rachel! I always rush too fast into things and end up telling myself to slow down.

Great advice! It’s so easy to wish certain things would happen right at this moment, but when things are meant to happen, they’ll happen.

just hang in there!

Patience (or lack thereof) is definitely an ongoing issue for me, haha. And I struggle with wanting to go out and grab life by the horns, but also accepting that everything happens in due time.

Great post, Rachel!

Thanks Ashley!

Good for you Rachel! And I have the exact same problem when I’m in the driver’s seat. Or, you know, just walking down the sidewalk.

So happy things fell into place for you. You’re right – sometimes it just takes a little time, and sometimes more time than expected. SO happy to hear it’s all happening for you now. Great post!

Thanks Julie!

Loved reading this because it’s so relevant to my life right now 😉 Glad everything worked out for you!

thanks Annie- glad you could relate!

I have a problem with wanting everything to happen on my time…but have learned (especially this past year) that I need to wait and let things happen on the Lord’s time. Such a great post, Rach!

This post definitely serves as a great reminder to me! I’m so impatient when it comes to big ‘life stuff’ and I’m always looking to the next step. I definitely believe that things happen when they’re supposed to and we need to be patient in waiting for the perfect timing and opportunities to present themselves. Great post!

Thank you! It’s so important not to compare yourself to others that are “ahead” of you. It’s not that they are ahead, it’s just that their moment came sooner

This is such a wise post. It’s so easy to dive into things before you are ready or before the situation is quite right…but like you said, the perfect opportunity will eventually appear! So glad everything worked out for you, even if you had to wait it out.

oh boy I love that you called me wise! haha

Rachel, so true. I’ve come to learn the same thing after living at home for the past year and a half after school. I’m still dying for my independence but know the time will come soon enough!

I stayed at home for 2 years and got frustrated a lot, but I’m so glad I did it in the long run. Your opportunity will come along when the time is right!

What a great post. I totally agree. Wen its meant to be it happens. Ou have a great blog.

What a great post and a great mantra. I am so impatient at times, I hate not knowing where I am going or what I am doing but sometimes you just have to wait and see what comes your way. Not saying you shouldn’t be working toward something, but sometimes the times aren’t right until they are really right.. you know what I mean?

I never knew how impatient I could be until I graduated! I’ve been living at home for just a little over a year – still working on saving. I know it will help me in the long run but I’m dying to decorate an apartment/house! Haha. But I love the mantra you found – it’s such an important thing to remember 🙂

I was exactly in your place (we’ve spoke about this before), so I totally get it! The right time/opportunity will come along soon 🙂

thanks so much Kim!

Great post!

You make such great points here! I can’t even tell you how many of my friends I plan to share this with. Timing is everything. Rushing can only lead to more disappointment Its great to hear that you are where you are supposed to be – lots of great encouragement for others!

Thanks Kelsey! I’m so glad you enjoyed it

I am CRAZY impatient! I’m getting a little better at it, and hopefully things will work out for me. I’m SO excited that your pieces are falling into place 🙂

thank you! And they will- it just takes time, I promise!

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Why we can’t stop rushing.

We know that happiness is to be found in taking our time and being present. How can we slow down?

By Melissa Kirsch

Racing to catch a subway train recently, I tripped on the stairs leading to the platform, steadying myself only barely by grabbing the arm of an unsuspecting and rightfully alarmed fellow passenger. I sustained no major damage — a scraped knee, a bruise on my thigh I’d discover a week later. These injuries were, I told myself in the aftermath, well deserved. I’d disregarded one of my precepts for personal happiness, the one that stipulates, “Most misery is caused by rushing.”

My fall was the most basic evidence of this, a frying-pan-over-the-head reminder that running late and reckless from one place to the next puts one at risk of a spill. But there was also all the incidental unhappiness I’d incurred and inflicted in the lead-up: I’d been rushing to get out of the house, which put me in a foul mood. I’d been impatient with everyone I encountered on the way to the subway, adding some measure of unpleasantness to their mornings.

We rush because we’re late. We also rush because we want to move quickly away from discomfort. We rush to come up with solutions to problems that would benefit from more sustained consideration. We rush into obligations or decisions or relationships because we want things settled.

Worrying is a kind of rushing: It’s uncomfortable to sit in a state of uncertainty, so we fast-forward the tape, accelerating our lives past the present moment into fearsome imagined scenarios.

A friend and I remind each other regularly of a radio news segment she heard years ago. The reporter concluded the story, about a mess of delays on the Long Island Rail Road, with the line, “These commuters are ready for this day to be over, once and for all.” Of course the message was the commuters wanted to get home and have dinner and go to bed already. But the finality of “once and for all” made it sound as though the commuters were so fed up that they wanted to end that day and all days. Or, as my friend wrote : “Certainly at one point the day will definitely be over once and for all for each of us. Is that what we’re rushing toward?”

This obsession with being done with things, of living life like an endless to-do list, is ridiculous. I find myself sometimes having a lovely time, out to dinner with friends, say, and I’ll notice an insistent hankering for the dinner to be over. Why? So I can get to the next thing, who cares what the next thing is, just keep going. Keep rushing, even through the good parts.

In Marie Howe’s poem “Hurry,” she describes running errands with a child in tow. “Hurry up honey, I say, hurry,” she urges, as the little one scampers to keep up. Then she wonders: “Where do I want her to hurry to? To her grave? / To mine? Where one day she might stand all grown?”

This is not novel advice, to stop and smell the roses, to be here now, to slow down. But it’s not easily heeded. Our culture, now as ever, rewards hustle. The Silicon Valley maxim “Done is better than perfect” can be constructive when applied to procrastination. But we bring it to bear on situations in which “done” is not necessarily a desirable goal.

Since my subway incident, I’ve been trying to notice when I’m rushing, physically and psychologically. “Where are you going?” I ask myself. “And why are you in such a hurry?” That pause helps put a little space between here and there, and might, with any luck, avert future misery.

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Bahrain Grand Prix: The Formula 1 season begins this morning. The Athletic’s experts expect Max Verstappen to dominate the field again this year . Even if he does, though, there are plenty of story lines to follow, including a potential breakout year for the sport’s only American racer, Logan Sargeant, and a new team for the fan favorite Daniel Ricciardo. And if you’re new to the sport — perhaps drawn in by an addictive documentary series — Madeline Coleman’s series “Between the Racing Lines” is helpful for understanding race day, including why D.R.S. is so controversial and how drivers get in physical shape to compete . Today at 10 a.m. Eastern on ESPN.

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Life Is About The Journey — Don’t Rush It

By Katie Rochelle

Anyone else always worried and consumed by what comes next? Constantly planning for a future, we aren’t even sure we will get. Rushing, racing, and competing against ourselves and others. I know this because this has been my life. This has been my constant battle. My biggest misery and fear.

What does come next? Will I get to the big things, the small things….?

These are the things that fill my head. Answers that I’m always searching for and signs I’m hoping to find. I don’t want to be the girl who missed out. That let something good get away. I don’t want to miss my train.

I’m sure we all think this. Because who really dreams of getting left behind or settling for a life half lived.

We’re all hoping for better days. Wishing on the next shooting star, that someday will be today, or tomorrow. That we’ll get there. We’ll find our way. More than anything, that we’ll learn to love the journey. No matter how narrow and complicated it may get, I want to love it.

But what if I told you that your better days are here. They are close and they are coming. That you must abandon your fears of missing out, losing and being left behind. That you must put your faith and trust in the journey. Your good days are among you. Your better days are here and your time is now.

Take a pause in your life and recognize what you’re surrounded by. Love the people who have stuck with you, loved you, and encouraged you. Those are the people you must carry with you in your journey. Those are the faces you’ll always need and the hugs that will always bring you home.

It won’t always be easy. But who wants easy? You will need others along the way. You will need friends that you can count on. That want to be a part of your life. That want to be a part of your journey with you.

You may be surprised at who shows up and who doesn’t, but you’ll be thankful for the way it turns out.

You’ll need these people to carry you and to love you; you the same to them. I’m here to tell you something you probably already know. Not everyone is going to make it out with you. Not everyone is going to be the person they were to you.

They will no longer serve the same purpose in your life. This will be one of the hardest things to accept and deal with. But you’ll handle it on your own terms. Smile when you think of them, be happy that you knew them, but carry on with your life.

I haven’t always loved the journey. I haven’t always taken the time to recognize the beauty amid the chaos. But, I’ve learned that the journey is what you make it. My journey is my journey. I can choose to love it or hate it. I choose to love it.

You should too. You should love your journey, because not all of us will get to finish it. You should cherish it. Embrace it and keep it close to your heart. String it along with you, like a paper trail. Smile when you can and speak light to those when you feel the need. Chase after the things that keep you alive. Love the journey, it’s yours for a reason.

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“Everything comes to you at the right time; don’t rush the process”

It can be easy to think that time is running out – that we need to act quickly, or we will miss out on something if we don’t make a snap decision.

While at times the above is correct, more often than not, we need to have faith that there is a plan for us, and that we should not rush any process, instead, we should wait for the good things to happen when they are supposed to happen.

With this in mind, we review the famous quote “everything comes to you at the right time; don’t rush the process”. It is a wise saying, and one that we fully believe in.

What does the quote mean?

The origin of this great quote is not known. But whoever did first utter these words, will have done so during a particularly wise moment of their life.

As the quote suggests, we should exert caution when we try and rush something. Maybe this is an assignment, a potential love conquest, a friendship, a project, or anything else that takes time.

This is particularly important when thinking of our mental health. So many people suffer from mental health problems at the moment – and it can seem that when you are stuck in a deep rut, that things will never get better.

You may be tempted to try radical things in an effort to get better. But ultimately, as the quote suggests, we need to sit back and let the process take place at its own pace.

As the quote suggests, everything will come to you at the right time. There is a deeper meaning behind all of the decisions we make, and good things take time to happen.

After all, the old saying that “a river cuts through a rock not because of its power, but because of its persistence” is always true. We need to persist, and have faith that things will turn out for the best.

As Christians, we fully believe that God has a plan for us all. It can be difficult if you have been struggling for a long time. But better times will follow.

It is perfectly understandable for you to feel differently, but even if you don’t believe in a form of higher power in this universe, we hope you have some belief that we all serve a purpose in this world.

When navigating life, we all need to show patience and faith – especially when going through difficult times. Periods of low mood and stormy scenarios will eventually pass.

We need to have faith that things will get better, while also having the patience to let this process take place. Patience is a virtue, and struggle is nature’s way of strengthening.

It is never a good idea to rush something in the short-term without thinking of the long-term consequences. By taking a step back, staying patient and having belief, everything will come to you at the right time.

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Don’t rush anything, when the time is right, it’ll happen, how do you truly embrace each day.

Today, I hear people way too many people complain about the now, especially while in college. I hear many people say, "I wish I could skip ahead to five years from now." "I wish I could just graduate now" or the usual "I wish I could meet the love of my life now." The process is frustrating for everyone, but it shouldn't be like this.

Trust me I understand the feeling. I have my whole future planned out. I am the person who likes to have a plan and goals for my life. I have thought about my career, how to build my career, where I will live, where I want to build a family, what age I prefer to be married. However, I try not don't get caught up in rushing the process of your journey.

Each day given to us is a gift. If you don't have the ability to enjoy today, how will you truly cherish tomorrow?

When you think about it, everything is falling into place collectively. You will graduate. You will get a job. You will meet the girl or the guy. You will move on. You will achieve your goals. You will strive at adulting. IT IS A PROCESS. Anything you really have your eye on in life will not always be easy. We have been trained to rush things with the age of digital media and our desire to compare ourselves to others. We have to obtain things immediately. We have to be just like the girl on Instagram or have that outfit or that career.

Yes. I admit sometimes life might suck but like the very popular saying "embrace the SUCK" because you will never be able to get that time back.

Two years ago, I learned the power of being in control of how I think through affirmations on self-love and growth. We don't take time to truly work on our inner beings enough. It truly shapes how I think and how I carry myself to this day. In addition, I started journaling again which allows me to reflect on each day through prayers, self-assessments, and how I am feeling. I know these are little things, but they are habits I have obtained and have flourished with. It affects how I see the world, myself, and how I choose to embrace every day.

Recently, I changed my major from English Literature and Journalism to Psychology and Journalism. I am at peace because I know what I want to do with my life. However, you can guess Psychology is a strenuous and all about understanding the overall concepts of the brain. You see when I started my courses, I felt the need to just give up saying to myself "Can I just skip ahead? Can I be a Psychologist already?"

I caught myself. We have to catch ourselves in these situations. We have to hold ourselves accountable for our inner thoughts. How we think impacts how we live and how we take action every day. At that moment, I wasn't truly appreciating the process and by doing so I didn't notice how hard I was working to understand the concepts or pass the class. For me thinking like this becomes ineffective and unproductive. But by holding myself accountable and noticing it right away changes how I attack the situation.

I agree the process is hard and it will test you. But it is worth it and everything you want in this life will be worth it. Changing your mindset requires discipline and the ceaseless desire to improve. Get caught up in the process. Start to acknowledge how this is shaping you for your future, for the person you are working to be.

Remind yourself: don't rush anything, now is the time to notice your mistakes and hold yourself accountable to improve. When the time is right, it'll happen but it will only happen because of the process and because of the challenges.

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Waitlisted for a college class here's what to do, dealing with the inevitable realities of college life..

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Don't freak out

This is a rule you should continue to follow no matter what you do in life, but is especially helpful in this situation.

Email the professor

Around this time, professors are getting flooded with requests from students wanting to get into full classes. This doesn't mean you shouldn't burden them with your email; it means they are expecting interested students to email them. Send a short, concise message telling them that you are interested in the class and ask if there would be any chance for you to get in.

Attend the first class

Often, the advice professors will give you when they reply to your email is to attend the first class. The first class isn't the most important class in terms of what will be taught. However, attending the first class means you are serious about taking the course and aren't going to give up on it.

Keep attending class

Every student is in the same position as you are. They registered for more classes than they want to take and are "shopping." For the first couple of weeks, you can drop or add classes as you please, which means that classes that were once full will have spaces. If you keep attending class and keep up with assignments, odds are that you will have priority. Professors give preference to people who need the class for a major and then from higher to lower class year (senior to freshman).

Have a backup plan

For two weeks, or until I find out whether I get into my waitlisted class, I will be attending more than the usual number of classes. This is so that if I don't get into my waitlisted class, I won't have a credit shortage and I won't have to fall back in my backup class. Chances are that enough people will drop the class, especially if it is very difficult like computer science, and you will have a chance. In popular classes like art and psychology, odds are you probably won't get in, so prepare for that.

Remember that everything works out at the end

Life is full of surprises. So what if you didn't get into the class you wanted? Your life obviously has something else in store for you. It's your job to make sure you make the best out of what you have.

Navigating the Talking Stage: 21 Essential Questions to Ask for Connection

It's mandatory to have these conversations..

Whether you met your new love interest online , through mutual friends, or another way entirely, you'll definitely want to know what you're getting into. I mean, really, what's the point in entering a relationship with someone if you don't know whether or not you're compatible on a very basic level?

Consider these 21 questions to ask in the talking stage when getting to know that new guy or girl you just started talking to:

1. What do you do for a living?

What someone does for a living can tell a lot about who they are and what they're interested in! Their career reveals a lot more about them than just where they spend their time to make some money.

2. What's your favorite color?

OK, I get it, this seems like something you would ask a Kindergarten class, but I feel like it's always good to know someone's favorite color . You could always send them that Snapchat featuring you in that cute shirt you have that just so happens to be in their favorite color!

3. Do you have any siblings?

This one is actually super important because it's totally true that people grow up with different roles and responsibilities based on where they fall in the order. You can tell a lot about someone just based on this seemingly simple question.

4. What's your favorite television show?

OK, maybe this isn't a super important question, but you have to know ASAP if you can quote Michael Scott or not. If not, he probably isn't the one. Sorry, girl.

5. When is your birthday?

You can then proceed to do the thing that every girl does without admitting it and see how compatible your zodiacs are.

6. What's your biggest goal in life?

If you're like me, you have big goals that you want to reach someday, and you want a man behind you who also has big goals and understands what it's like to chase after a dream. If his biggest goal is to see how quickly he can binge-watch " Grey's Anatomy " on Netflix , you may want to move on.

7. If you had three wishes granted to you by a genie, what would they be?

This is a go-to for an insight into their personality. Based on how they answer, you can tell if they're goofy, serious, or somewhere in between.

8. What's your favorite childhood memory?

For some, this may be a hard question if it involves a family member or friend who has since passed away . For others, it may revolve around a tradition that no longer happens. The answers to this question are almost endless!

9. If you could change one thing about your life, what would it be?

We all have parts of our lives and stories that we wish we could change. It's human nature to make mistakes. This question is a little bit more personal but can really build up the trust level.

10. Are you a cat or a dog person?

I mean, duh! If you're a dog person, and he is a cat person, it's not going to work out.

11. Do you believe in a religion or any sort of spiritual power?

Personally, I am a Christian, and as a result, I want to be with someone who shares those same values. I know some people will argue that this question is too much in the talking stage , but why go beyond the talking stage if your personal values will never line up?

12. If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would it be?

Even homebodies have a must visit place on their bucket list !

13. What is your ideal date night?

Hey, if you're going to go for it... go for it!

14. Who was/is your celebrity crush?

For me, it was hands-down Nick Jonas . This is always a fun question to ask!

15. What's a good way to cheer you up if you're having a bad day?

Let's be real, if you put a label on it, you're not going to see your significant other at their best 24/7.

16. Do you have any tattoos?

This can lead to some really good conversations, especially if they have a tattoo that has a lot of meaning to them!

17. Can you describe yourself in three words?

It's always interesting to see if how the person you're talking to views their personal traits lines ups with the vibes you're getting.

18. What makes you the most nervous in life?

This question can go multiple different directions, and it could also be a launching pad for other conversations.

19. What's the best gift you have ever received? 

Admittedly, I have asked this question to friends as well, but it's neat to see what people value.

20. What do you do to relax/have fun?

Work hard, play hard, right?

21. What are your priorities at this phase of your life?

This is always interesting because no matter how compatible your personalities may be, if one of you wants to be serious and the other is looking for something casual, it's just not going to work.

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Challah vs. Easter Bread: A Delicious Dilemma

Is there really such a difference in challah bread or easter bread.

Ever since I could remember, it was a treat to receive Easter Bread made by my grandmother. We would only have it once a year and the wait was excruciating. Now that my grandmother has gotten older, she has stopped baking a lot of her recipes that require a lot of hand usage--her traditional Italian baking means no machines. So for the past few years, I have missed enjoying my Easter Bread.

A few weeks ago, I was given a loaf of bread called Challah (pronounced like holla), and upon my first bite, I realized it tasted just like Easter Bread. It was so delicious that I just had to make some of my own, which I did.

The recipe is as follows:

Ingredients

2 tsp active dry or instant yeast 1 cup lukewarm water 4 to 4 1/2 cups all-purpose flour 1/2 cup white granulated sugar 2 tsp salt 2 large eggs 1 large egg yolk (reserve the white for the egg wash) 1/4 cup neutral-flavored vegetable oil

Instructions

• Combine yeast and a pinch of sugar in small bowl with the water and stir until you see a frothy layer across the top.
• Whisk together 4 cups of the flour, sugar, and salt in a large bowl.
• Make a well in the center of the flour and add in eggs, egg yolk, and oil. Whisk these together to form a slurry, pulling in a little flour from the sides of the bowl.
• Pour the yeast mixture over the egg slurry and mix until difficult to move.
• Turn out the dough onto a floured work surface and knead by hand for about 10 minutes. If the dough seems very sticky, add flour a teaspoon at a time until it feels tacky, but no longer like bubblegum. The dough has finished kneading when it is soft, smooth, and holds a ball-shape.
• Place the dough in an oiled bowl, cover with plastic wrap, and place somewhere warm. Let the dough rise 1 1/2 to 2 hours.
• Separate the dough into four pieces. Roll each piece of dough into a long rope roughly 1-inch thick and 16 inches long.
• Gather the ropes and squeeze them together at the very top. Braid the pieces in the pattern of over, under, and over again. Pinch the pieces together again at the bottom.
• Line a baking sheet with parchment and lift the loaf on top. Sprinkle the loaf with a little flour and drape it with a clean dishcloth. Place the pan somewhere warm and away from drafts and let it rise until puffed and pillowy, about an hour.
• Heat the oven to 350°F. Whisk the reserved egg white with a tablespoon of water and brush it all over the challah. Be sure to get in the cracks and down the sides of the loaf.
• Slide the challah on its baking sheet into the oven and bake for 30 to 35 minutes, rotating the pan halfway through cooking. The challah is done when it is deeply browned.

I kept wondering how these two breads could be so similar in taste. So I decided to look up a recipe for Easter Bread to make a comparison. The two are almost exactly the same! These recipes are similar because they come from religious backgrounds. The Jewish Challah bread is based on kosher dietary laws. The Christian Easter Bread comes from the Jewish tradition but was modified over time because they did not follow kosher dietary laws.

A recipe for Easter bread is as follows:

2 tsp active dry or instant yeast 2/3 cup milk 2 1/2 cups all-purpose flour 1/4 cup white granulated sugar 2 tbs butter 2 large eggs 2 tbs melted butter 1 tsp salt

• In a large bowl, combine 1 cup flour, sugar, salt, and yeast; stir well. Combine milk and butter in a small saucepan; heat until milk is warm and butter is softened but not melted.
• Gradually add the milk and butter to the flour mixture; stirring constantly. Add two eggs and 1/2 cup flour; beat well. Add the remaining flour, 1/2 cup at a time, stirring well after each addition. When the dough has pulled together, turn it out onto a lightly floured surface and knead until smooth and elastic, about 8 minutes.
• Lightly oil a large bowl, place the dough in the bowl and turn to coat with oil. Cover with a damp cloth and let rise in a warm place until doubled in volume, about 1 hour.
• Deflate the dough and turn it out onto a lightly floured surface. Divide the dough into two equal size rounds; cover and let rest for 10 minutes. Roll each round into a long roll about 36 inches long and 1 1/2 inches thick. Using the two long pieces of dough, form a loosely braided ring, leaving spaces for the five colored eggs. Seal the ends of the ring together and use your fingers to slide the eggs between the braids of dough.
• Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Place loaf on a buttered baking sheet and cover loosely with a damp towel. Place loaf in a warm place and let rise until doubled in bulk, about 45 minutes. Brush risen loaf with melted butter.
• Bake in the preheated oven until golden brown, about 30 minutes.

Both of these recipes are really easy to make. While you might need to have a day set aside for this activity, you can do things while the dough is rising or in the oven. After only a few hours, you have a delicious loaf of bread that you made from scratch, so the time and effort is really worth it!

Unlocking Lake People's Secrets: 15 Must-Knows!

There's no other place you'd rather be in the summer..

The people that spend their summers at the lake are a unique group of people.

Whether you grew up going to the lake , have only recently started going, or have only been once or twice, you know it takes a certain kind of person to be a lake person. To the long-time lake people, the lake holds a special place in your heart , no matter how dirty the water may look.

Every year when summer rolls back around, you can't wait to fire up the boat and get back out there. Here is a list of things you can probably identify with as a fellow lake-goer.

A bad day at the lake is still better than a good day not at the lake.

It's your place of escape, where you can leave everything else behind and just enjoy the beautiful summer day. No matter what kind of week you had, being able to come and relax without having to worry about anything else is the best therapy there is. After all, there's nothing better than a day of hanging out in the hot sun, telling old funny stories and listening to your favorite music.

You know the best beaches and coves to go to.

Whether you want to just hang out and float or go walk around on a beach, you know the best spots. These often have to be based on the people you're with, given that some "party coves" can get a little too crazy for little kids on board. I still have vivid memories from when I was six that scared me when I saw the things drunk girls would do for beads.

You have no patience for the guy who can't back his trailer into the water right.

When there's a long line of trucks waiting to dump their boats in the water, there's always that one clueless guy who can't get it right, and takes 5 attempts and holds up the line. No one likes that guy. One time my dad got so fed up with a guy who was taking too long that he actually got out of the car and asked this guy if he could just do it for him. So he got into the guy's car, threw it in reverse, and got it backed in on the first try. True story.

Doing the friendly wave to every boat you pass.

Similar to the "jeep wave," almost everyone waves to other boats passing by. It's just what you do, and is seen as a normal thing by everyone.

The cooler is always packed, mostly with beer.

Alcohol seems to be a big part of the lake experience, but other drinks are squeezed into the room remaining in the cooler for the kids, not to mention the wide assortment of chips and other foods in the snack bag.

Giving the idiot who goes 30 in a "No Wake Zone" a piece of your mind.

There's nothing worse than floating in the water, all settled in and minding your business, when some idiot barrels through. Now your anchor is loose, and you're left jostled by the waves when it was nice and perfectly still before. This annoyance is typically answered by someone yelling some choice words to them that are probably accompanied by a middle finger in the air.

You have no problem with peeing in the water.

It's the lake, and some social expectations are a little different here, if not lowered quite a bit. When you have to go, you just go, and it's no big deal to anyone because they do it too.

You know the frustration of getting your anchor stuck.

The number of anchors you go through as a boat owner is likely a number that can be counted on two hands. Every once in a while, it gets stuck on something on the bottom of the lake, and the only way to fix the problem is to cut the rope, and you have to replace it.

Watching in awe at the bigger, better boats that pass by.

If you're the typical lake-goer, you likely might have an average-sized boat that you're perfectly happy with. However, that doesn't mean you don't stop and stare at the fast boats that loudly speed by, or at the obnoxiously huge yachts that pass.

Knowing any swimsuit that you own with white in it is best left for the pool or the ocean.

You've learned this the hard way, coming back from a day in the water and seeing the flowers on your bathing suit that were once white, are now a nice brownish hue.

The momentary fear for your life as you get launched from the tube.

If the driver knows how to give you a good ride, or just wants to specifically throw you off, you know you're done when you're speeding up and heading straight for a big wave. Suddenly you're airborne, knowing you're about to completely wipe out, and you eat pure wake. Then you get back on and do it all again.

You're able to go to the restaurants by the water wearing minimal clothing.

One of the many nice things about the life at the lake is that everybody cares about everything a little less. Rolling up to the place wearing only your swimsuit, a cover-up, and flip flops, you fit right in. After a long day when you're sunburned, a little buzzed, and hungry, you're served without any hesitation.

Having unexpected problems with your boat.

Every once in a while you're hit with technical difficulties, no matter what type of watercraft you have. This is one of the most annoying setbacks when you're looking forward to just having a carefree day on the water, but it's bound to happen. This is just one of the joys that come along with being a boat owner.

Having a name for your boat unique to you and your life.

One of the many interesting things that make up the lake culture is the fact that many people name their boats. They can range from basic to funny, but they are unique to each and every owner, and often have interesting and clever meanings behind them.

There's no better place you'd rather be in the summer.

Summer is your all-time favorite season, mostly because it's spent at the lake. Whether you're floating in the cool water under the sun, or taking a boat ride as the sun sets, you don't have a care in the world at that moment . The people that don't understand have probably never experienced it, but it's what keeps you coming back every year.

Top 10 Reasons My School Rocks!

Why i chose a small school over a big university..

I was asked so many times why I wanted to go to a small school when a big university is so much better. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure a big university is great but I absolutely love going to a small school. I know that I miss out on big sporting events and having people actually know where it is. I can't even count how many times I've been asked where it is and I know they won't know so I just say "somewhere in the middle of Wisconsin ." But, I get to know most people at my school and I know my professors very well. Not to mention, being able to walk to the other side of campus in 5 minutes at a casual walking pace. I am so happy I made the decision to go to school where I did. I love my school and these are just a few reasons why.

1. My school is incredibly unique.

There are so many different kinds of people that each bring something really special to contribute to the school which makes it so unique.

2. I am not just a number at my school.

I am a student that my professors know about and I like knowing that my professors can watch my progress.

3. I feel like I am contributing something to the community.

I like feeling like I can make a difference on my campus.

4. I really do feel like it is my home away from home.

It isn't just my school. It is absolutely my home away from home. I feel so comfortable there and it was as hard of an adjustment as I had thought it would be.

5. My professors know me and I feel that I can easily communicate with them.

I feel like they will do anything to help students succeed. I can always go to my professors. I like knowing that I have someone looking out for me.

6. The incredible people I've met

The people I have met at my school, even after my first year, have made such a huge impact on me. I know that these are people that I will stay friends with long after college is done.

7. Opportunities

My school offers so many different opportunities to get involved in things around campus. Even writing for the Odyssey was an opportunity offered to me by my school and I decided to challenge myself by writing an article. Turns out, I really enjoy writing. I might not have had this opportunity at a bigger school.

8. Students want to learn

I feel as though I am not just learning inside the classroom at my school. I am learning outside the classroom to from my fellow classmates who want to engage about the things we have learned.

9. Ability to join a sorority and have a house full of people I know I can talk to anytime I need to

I wasn't sure if being in a sorority was something I was interested in but when I met the amazing people in the sorority and how inclusive it was, I knew that it was going to be a good thing for me. The people I've met in my sorority have been so amazing.

10. I have figured out how I learn best because my school offers so many different ways of learning.

Because of the smaller class sizes, there is more flexibility in the way the class is taught. This was helpful because I was able to try out different ways of learning and figure out which way I learn best.

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One important piece of advice about life I'll give you is this: Take it slow. It can be so easy to get caught up in this fast-paced world, and to run from one destination to the next. Especially with a cup of coffee in hand, it's possible to respond to a bunch of text messages in just a few minutes and send in your assignments for class, too. But, just because it's possible, doesn't necessarily mean you should do it. Not every situation needs to be a race against the clock, and you'll realize that there are some things you shouldn't rush in life . Let's dig into that, shall we?

The truth is, as a 20-something, you likely feel like you're in a race against time. Your best friends and family members are asking you questions about your professional and personal life. They're tossing around phrases like, "what's next," and "five-year plans." You may have some answers, but you don't have it all figured out quite yet. That leaves you feeling a little confused about the future.

You may start comparing yourself to others and looking at the real world as one big competition. Stop that right now! Know that you're not supposed to have it all figured out. In fact, it's much better to move at your own pace with these five things.

First things first: Don't rush the process of finding and landing your dream job. Sure, it would be ideal to write for your favorite magazine or work for that renowned hospital down the street, straight out of college. But, it may not happen — and that's totally OK. Here's why.

You still have a lot to learn in your field. There may be other positions or opportunities that you're even more passionate about, but just don't know about yet. Take the time to explore those options, build your resumé, and become a well-rounded professional in your field. It'll be worth it in the long run, and help you to appreciate your title of being a #girlboss.

When I graduated college, I gave myself a timeline. I wanted to have a full-time job by the fall, and move out on my own around the same time. It didn't quite work out that way, but I'm so happy that it didn't. Little did I know, there are a lot of perks of living at home and continuing to share a space with your family.

For example, you save a lot of money by not rushing your apartment hunt. I was able to become more financially stable, and explore my career options at the same time. In addition, I learned more about patience, unconditional love, and what family truly means to me. Those are irreplaceable life lessons that I couldn't have learned otherwise.

In my opinion, it's beautiful and calming to think that everything that consumes our minds will come to us, the moment we shift our mental energy to something else — including love.

Now, you may be in a relationship, and have completely fallen head over heels. (Guilty.) But, if you're single right now and being asked about your personal life on the reg, then know that there's absolutely no rush.

The love story you're looking for will come to you when it's supposed to. Don't force love or a relationship that doesn't feel right in the meantime, just because you feel like you're in a race against time.

Learning from life's experiences and curveballs is essential to growing and becoming the best version of yourself. Give yourself the time and space to process what went well or not-so-well. If things didn't turn out the way you hoped they would, consider doing things differently the next time around.

If you didn't pay your rent bill on time because you impulsively bought a new pair of shoes, then sit down with your laptop and figure out your finances. Create a budget for yourself, and be proactive. If you started an argument with your best friends, then realize why and address any underlying issues. (And apologize!)

It'll pay off to focus on these aspects of personal growth, and make you feel more humble moving forward. Things might happen that are simply out of your control. But, do yourself a favor and take every opportunity you can to learn.

Last but not least, celebrate your little victories and don't let them pass you by. Toss some confetti in the air, or treat yourself to a dozen doughnuts from your favorite bakery in your hometown. Cheer yourself on.

You'll hit so many milestones in this decade of your life and beyond. You may land your dream job, or figure out how to cook chicken properly for the first time. That's major for you, even if somebody else has already been there and done that.

Truth is, you have to learn to say "who cares," and move forward down your own path. Plant flowers along the side of it and make it something beautiful for yourself. Life isn't a race, a competition, or a result of the clock — it's what you make of it. So, take it slow, enjoy your moments of success, and give yourself a chance to live your best life. (You'll thank me later for it.)

Don’t Rush This

I spent most mornings alone before we got our dog Toby. I get up an hour before Anne, and used to spend the time sitting on the couch, drinking coffee and reading before my morning run. It was my favorite time of the day, because it was all mine.

Now, I share the time with Toby. We wake up together, in the dark, and slip quietly out of the room. Toby sits by the couch, waiting for me to make my coffee, but the second I’m finished he stretches out, arches his back and waits for me to come lie down next to him. It’s our daily ritual, and the kind of thing I never thought I would do before he came into our lives.

Outside for his morning walk, we share a different sort of intimate moment. The streets are dark, quiet and empty, and we walk them in silence. Toby sniffs around and I wait patiently for him to find the perfect spot to go to the bathroom. After enough mornings like this, we know each other quite well – I lead Toby to his favorite spots, and he follows me, poop bag in hand, to the trashcan when he’s done. Perfect harmony between man and dog.

As the rest of the world wakes up, and other priorities come into the picture throughout the day, it becomes more difficult to appreciate the time I spend with Toby. I get impatient at his incessant sniffing around outside. I have less time for tug-of-war or rubbing his belly. Not now and come on become a much larger part of my vocabulary.

Whatever else I’m doing feels more important than paying attention to the dog.

Of course, deep down I know I’ll miss my mornings with Toby far more than the other things I’m rushing to get to. But I convince myself that there’s always tomorrow.

This past month, we celebrated Toby’s first birthday, a milestone that reminded me how fleeting our time is together. A meaningful chunk of his life is now over. Golden retrievers live to be roughly ten years old, and that’s all the time we get – assuming we get that much. It’s a difficult thought to sit with, but true nonetheless for every single dog owner out there.

Given that reality, the most important thing I can do with Toby is to be present.

Before going to sleep each night, the Stoic philosopher and Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius had a practice of tucking his kids into bed, and reminding himself to appreciate the moment:

“Don’t rush this. This might be the last time you do this. It’s not guaranteed that either of you will make it through the night.”

He recognized that spending time with his children was important, and something he would take for granted if he wasn’t careful. As Ryan Holiday says about the practice:

“There will come a time in your life – hopefully just because [your kids] are a little older, but it could be for more tragic reasons – when you would give literally anything for the opportunity to do that one more time.”

I like to think that my priorities always align with my values and what is most important to me, but dog ownership has made it clear that, despite my best efforts, I don’t always succeed. Reflecting on our relatively short time together helps to remind me that spending quality time with Toby is an urgent priority.

– Emmett

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The Case For Bad Coffee – Keith Pandolfi “Cheap coffee is one of America’s most unsung comfort foods. It’s as warming and familiar as a homemade lasagna or a 6-hour stew. It tastes of midnight diners and Tom Waits songs; ice cream and cigarettes with a dash of Swiss Miss. It makes me remember the best cup of coffee I ever had. Even though there was never just one best cup: there were hundreds.”

Expectations and Reality – Morgan Housel “We spend so much effort trying to improve our income, skills, and ability to forecast the future – all good stuff worthy of our attention. But on the other side there’s almost a complete ignorance of expectations, especially managing them with as much effort as we put into changing our circumstances.”

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Don’t rush the process, good things take time. – Unknown

It is essential to remember the old saying that a river cuts through a rock not because of its power, but because of its persistence. These simple lines highlight the motto of persistence and patience. In order to achieve success, any individual should learn to wait with patience.

Remember that time and tide wait for no one, and therefore right things will eventually fall in place at the right time. It is the duty of every individual to believe in his or her inner self and act accordingly. Remember that unnecessary rush will never build castles efficiently.

Learning to wait not only helps us to introspect our decisions or choices, but also give us the match today time skillfully correct the mistakes that we have committed in the past. If we rush the process, things will not only go wrong but also be worse.

In order to achieve big things in life, it is essential to take care of the smaller ones because a big thing is actually a massive collection of the smallest things in life. Remember that billions of tiny raindrops make a mighty ocean.

It is our common observation that good things often take enough time than usual kinds of stuff. We should also respect the healing power of time and abide by its rules and regulations. It is also essential to value time because that is what our lives are made up of. It is often useless to waste our time in unnecessary discussions and debates about faster success.

We should understand the value of waiting for good things because when we will achieve it, our happiness will not only be doubled but also it will be much sweeter.

We must learn to wait and accept life as it comes to us without complaining and nagging about harsh troublesome times. During tough times, it is also necessary to wait for the results and dedicatedly work hard to achieve our goals and dreams.

We should never compromise with our goals because today’s distraction may lead to tomorrow’s destruction. It is important to go by our own clocks as everyone on this planet has a different time and different timings to mature and grow. Life should never come to a complete standstill for anyone, and you need to maintain the flow correctly and efficiently.

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Meaning of Didn’t they tell us, "Don’t rush into things"?

In Taylor Swift's mesmerizing song "Wonderland," she takes us on a journey through a world that is both enchanting and treacherous. The lyrics explore the complexities of love, illusions, and the consequences of rushing into things. Each line adds another layer to the narrative, compelling us to delve deeper into the themes presented.The line that stands out amidst the poetic verses is, "Didn't they tell us, 'Don't rush into things'?" This line serves as a pivotal point in the song, urging us to reflect on the dangers of heedlessly diving into uncertain situations and relationships. It encapsulates a theme that resonates with many — the perils of impatience and the significance of taking time to truly understand and appreciate what lies ahead.While the theme of caution in matters of love may seem expected, it is important to delve into the unexpected and imaginative themes that this line develops. Through their reflection, we discover a multitude of interconnected ideas that enhance our understanding of the song's overarching message.1. The Illusion of Time: This line alludes to a hidden truth about time itself. It questions the relevance of the conventional understanding that time is linear and that we must rush to keep up with its relentless pace. Taylor Swift challenges this notion by suggesting that time can be manipulated, that rushing into things disregards the natural flow, and that we must embrace the journey rather than fixating on the destination.2. The Seductive Allure of Impulsiveness: The line also reveals the seductive allure of acting impulsively. It highlights the enticement of instant gratification and the thrill of diving headfirst into the unknown, driven by a burning desire to experience something new and exciting. However, this excitement can blind one to the potential consequences of their actions, ultimately leading to disillusionment.3. The Dichotomy of Stability and Chaos: The theme of rushing into things encompasses the delicate balance between seeking stability and embracing chaos. While stability provides comfort and security, embracing the unknown can bring about growth and transformative experiences. This line challenges us to find the middle ground, to perceive the world through two lenses simultaneously: one that encourages stability and another that nourishes the adventurous spirit within us.4. Discovering Wonderland within Ourselves: Further delving into the song's themes, we uncover the idea that "Wonderland" serves as a metaphor for self-discovery. By cautioning against rushing, the line emphasizes the importance of taking the time to explore our own thoughts, emotions, and aspirations. It encourages us to navigate our own inner wonderland before venturing into the external world, reminding us that self-awareness and self-love are essential for genuine connection and lasting fulfillment.As we reflect on the depth and intricacies of this profound line, we are reminded to value patience and thoughtfulness in our own lives. Taylor Swift's "Wonderland" serves as a reminder to embrace the journey, to savor the moments, and to resist the urge to rush into the unknown. By doing so, we can discover our own personal wonderlands and find a greater understanding of ourselves in the process.

Meaning of Didn’t you calm my fears with a Cheshire cat smile?

Meaning of and talking turned to screams, oh.

Why You Don’t Need to Rush Your Writing

By Meg Rosoff   |  September 17, 2014  |  41 Comments

In my life I have learned to rock-climb, ski, speak French (all badly). I was deputy press secretary for New York State in Dukakis’ bid for the presidency in 1988, a job I got through volunteering in hopes of meeting a nice single guy.  I worked at The New York Times back when the presses were still in the basement of the building on 43 rd Street, was fired from six ad agencies and spent two years at People Magazine. I went to horse camp, worked on advertising shoots so I know what gaffers and sparks do, how difficult casting is to get right, and how boring most of the time on set is.

I went fox hunting once and jumped a five bar fence. Terrified. With my eyes closed.

I didn’t meet my husband till I was 32 so I know lots about wild disastrous relationships (most of which I couldn’t possibly discuss in public).

I spent a decade racing 30-foot sailboats and flying in tiny Cessna planes with my best friend’s rich husband. I was never much of a sailor, but I could take orders fairly well. OK, slightly-below-average well.

I’ve crossed the Canadian Rockies in a helicopter, paddled a kayak next to a giant sea lion in Desolation Bay, picked oysters and mussels and clams out of the sea and eaten them that day (on an advertising shoot). I’ve been to book festivals in China, New Zealand, Germany, France, Italy, Armenia, Scotland, Wales and Texas.

I survived 18 hours of childbirth and conversations about drugs and sex and body image with my teenager.

I had breast cancer, chemotherapy and radiation, lost all my hair and didn’t know if I was going to die. I wrote most of a book that year.  I inherited the family depression gene.

I’ve ridden a horse through the Black Mountains in Wales, seen a moose a few feet away, nearly passed out drunk at a Harvard “final club”, sang Monteverdi in Chartres Cathedral and Beethoven’s Ode to Joy with the Boston Symphony.

I saw Talking Heads and Elvis Costello and the Clash in tiny clubs in NY and London. I played bass guitar at CBGBs in NY and miniature golf with David Letterman in his office.

I met with a Hungarian policeman at 10pm in his tiny bleak office while two teenagers explained in Hungarian that I couldn’t afford the bribe he required.

I watched a black foal born to a pure white horse at the Lipizzaner stud in Szilvásvárad, Hungary. I took up riding again at age 50. Since then, I’ve had five concussions and no longer jump.

I studied steel sculpture with Anthony Caro, but didn’t understand a word he said for the entire time I was on the course. It discouraged me from ever taking art seriously as a profession, which was no bad thing.

I learned to play the piano, badly.

I could go on, but you get the idea.

I’m not very good at most of the things I’ve done in my life.  Except for writing. I’m a fairly good writer. I wrote my first book when I was 46.

All my life I despaired at being a jack-of-all-trades and master of none, but guess what? Everything I’d ever done proved fantastically useful when I started writing.

Which is by way of saying that when I tell my students not be in a hurry, I mean it. Because the more you live, the more you’ll know — in your head and in your heart. And the more you know, the more your book will come from a deep place of real resonance — in other words, not Wikipedia.

It’s also nice to have a life to look back on, just in case the book doesn’t work out.

Do you find yourself rushing to write? If you do, what helps you to slow down, to see the living as fuel?

Meg Rosoff was born in Boston, educated at Harvard and worked in NYC for ten years before moving to England permanently in 1989. She wrote her first novel, How I Live Now, (released late 2013 as a feature film starring Saoirse Ronan), at age 46. Her books have won or been shortlisted for 19 international book prizes, including the Carnegie medal and the Michael J Printz award. Picture Me Gone, her sixth novel, was shortlisted for the 2013 National Book Award . She lives in London with her husband and daughter.

41 Comments

Thanks for this.

I also came to writing later, with only a handful of partial manuscripts and short stories gathering dust from two decades of far less exciting professional ventures. But I’d kept my eyes and ears and heart open along the way so was in a better and perhaps wiser place by then.

What I’m learning now is the ideas to drive a new work take time with me too. Neither good or bad; it is simply that way, at least for now. So I find myself needing to accept I may never be an author who can crank out a new work every year or two. Perhaps that’s frowned upon these days, but you work with what you have.

Fortunately the story is coming together, but at its own pace – an exercise in faith, and another lesson in not rushing.

Thank you again for your well-timed encouragement. Be well.

I too am a consummate amateur, though certainly not to the scale and global reach you have been, so I appreciate this post. :) It’s hard not to feel the rush, but you’re so right that the writing is fuller and richer and truer for all the life experience a writer can put behind it.

A life well lived is a treasure beyond any other.

Simply beautiful, Meg.

Denise Willson Author of A Keeper’s Truth and GOT

What Denise said above! This is a beautiful post. I also came to writing later in life and although I feel my mortality, I love the way my life is unfolding. There is much to reflect upon … and writing has been a wonderful gift. An anchor even as I take flight.

Wow! Truly an incredible breadth and depth of experience. Vibrant and life affirming. Carpe diem indeed!

Wow, Meg. These are the words I need to hear right now. I am one of the (seeming) minority of writers who prize going slow and enjoying the view, believing that the work will add up with rich layers of living.

You studied with Anthony Caro? You rock climb and crew sailboats? You were at CB’s in the early days? Lady, we should talk. We have interests in common.

Mostly, though, we should talk about writing. Will you be at the Un-Conference? Whether or not you are, thanks for this post. I agree. No need to rush.

Selling books has, for five or six years, been a brutally difficult business. Recession weary and price hammered consumers are demanding much for $25 and high volume for $2.99. We’re only now starting to come out of that time and understand the new landscape of book retailing.

Take it slow and use the time to build stronger stories. I’m with you. Now, about setting a spinnaker…

See you there, Donald. x

Love, love, love this piece. I was grinning the whole time, even more so when I realized the point you were making.

Oddly, some reality shows have helped me remember not to be in a rush. I haven’t watched American Idol in many seasons, but I remember after they lowered the age limit, there were all kinds of kids auditioning who were good singers, but who would really have benefited from some seasoning, from some performance and life experience. They should have waited. Same thing with some of the dancers on So You Think You Can Dance. When I feel the panic of “it has to be NOW,” I think of those kids and remember that it is rarely a crime to wait, and is usually a benefit.

Also, being an editor helps me slow down, because it makes me more aware of what a good editor can bring to my own work (because I know what a difference I can make in someone else’s work).

That said, are you just the best party guest ever?

I’m nearly always the first person to leave a party, Natalie. So the answer to that last question is NO! Agree with you totally on all that American Idol stuff. Failures at 15. Or worse, successful at 15. Where do you go from there?

I didn’t mean life of the party, but the best person to sit with and prod you to tell stories of all those many different things. I was thinking more of other people enjoying you, than you enjoying a party (which are often two entirely different things) :-)

My children constantly asked, “So what’s next, Mom. What are you going to do now.?” So many have already expressed my views and feelings. All I can say is yes, yes, yes. I could never be writing my present book without the life I have led.

My children constantly asked, “So what’s next, Mom. What are you going to do now?” So many have already expressed my views and feelings. All I can say is yes, yes, yes. I could never be writing my present book without the life I have led.

Love love love this line from your essay: It’s also nice to have a life to look back on, just in case the book doesn’t work out. Terrific advice!!

Absolutely wonderful. A poignant portrayal of a life well-lived and enjoyed. Thank you for sharing this (and your talent) with us.

Bravo Meg. I really enjoyed your post. It’s encouraging for those of us arriving late at the writing table, with at least a snootful of living to our credit!

Meg, as Mark Twain would say, “This one’s a corker!” Lovely stuff.

As an old man already, I won’t take up horse-jumping (does the horse stand still when you jump over it?), but you have inspired me to buy a submarine.

“But I’m too busy writing about people living to live.” Thank you for showing me the error of my ways, Meg. : )

Quite beautiful… X

It’s difficult to imagine what may still be on your bucket list.

Is your memoir in the making?

The important thing is that you have lived. Lived a rich, full, blessed life – and what a story!

I LOVE this.

Meg, what a glorious, inspirational life you are living. Wonderful post!

Thanks Meg. This post is too fabulous for words and goes directly into my inspiration file—after I print out a copy for my wall!

Wow…you be’d busy!

True it is that the experiences we experience, the more experienced the writing sounds. And that’s the voice of experience.

This reminds me of something a friend once told me years ago. She said that most writers don’t create their best work until they are in their 40’s or 50’s. We were in our twenties at the time and I thought she was just making an excuse to put off her writing, but now I see her wisdom.

A late start as well. But I haven’t had the adventures you have had. Different in their own right. The twists and turns of the mind is great for changing mundane into manic. Loved your post, found out I’m not the only one. Thank you.

Great post. The timing was perfect.

This is one of thew best blogs / articles i ever read on f’book!

Ah, yes. Ditto. Kudos.

I did not rush to write myself – and that’s exactly what you write, isn’t it…yourself.

I’ve just published my debut mystery, THE BUTTERFLY AFFAIR, which is no saccharine title. The ancient Greeks viewed the butterfly as a soul named Psyche, right? At 64…sigh…goes so fast, time. Twilight Zone stuff. But I’ve also lived a life, and the novel holds some of that.

So kudos to both of us. If you’ll send me your mailing address, Meg, I will send you my book.

And the thing is Meg you have very nearly as many years ahead of you as you do behind you ….

Now there’s a terrifying thought…..!

I didn’t discover my desire to write my story until my late fifties. Life’s complexities have cooled me down recently. Your post lit my fire again. My story is quite complex, as am I and has ripened to the point of harvesting.

Can you be my new hero? Seriously, you lived an awesome life. I live like a monk just reading and writing. I always could use more inspiration to get out there and live.

Great post – very encouraging, but I must Ask: what year did you work at People? I worked there in 1989. Small world.

I’m older than you. It was about 1981-83.

Meg – Reading your great post it hit me: What do you do in your spare time?

Write, I suppose?

Any hobbies . . . not already listed?

I spend most of my spare time with two active working dogs (lurchers, they’re called) and riding horses. It’s more than a full time job in itself, and for a while I told myself I was going to get a horse for my 60th birthday, but now I’m not so sure if I can take the guilt. So I share other people’s horses, which is fine for now!

What a great post. Jill-of-all-trades and master of none–fit me to a T until I realized I do, like you, have a knack for writing, as well as languages. And now, I like racking up other skills and experiences to keep my life full and my brain humming. You’re right–at least I’ll have something to fall back on!

I need to write this same essay for myself. Sometimes I forget that I have done some amazing things in my life: gone to Alaska, assembled Thighmasters, worked as a ski bum, etc.

I started writing professionally in my 20s as a reporter, getting into it totally by accident. It was only later I started writing more creatively, and I still, in my mid-40s, don’t feel like I’ve hit my stride.

Sometimes I find when a project is just not coming out, it needs to ferment a bit longer. When I give it time, it flows when it is supposed to. It’s hard not to try to force it to be on my schedule, though.

Wonderful article! Couldn’t have said it better myself. And I bet there was a lot more, but you need to wait for a few people to pass on before you can tell. Well, that’s true in my case. LOL. I have had a very complicated life, too, and was 54 when I first published – Indie of course, by the time you reach 54 you don’t let anyone tell you what to do and especially what to write. All three of my books have been in the Amazon top ten at some stage and support me handsomely, so no complaints or regrets here. The point you make is spot on – the more you LIVE, the better you WRITE, and handling complex plots and characters is a breeze after a complex life.

So pleased I found you amongst the zillions of tweets. Cheers!

C. A. Hocking

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"rush" = doing things while kind of panicking/frantic for example: trying to write in 1 more sentence on your essay as your teacher is collecting them "hurry" = to do something quickly, but not necessarily in a panic. ex: if you want to go to a store before it closes, you jog instead of walk. this speeding up = hurrying. "Don't rush" = don't do it frantically, or else you'll be sloppy. Very similar to "don't be in a rush" ~ "don't be in a hurry" "Don't hurry": most people don't say this; usually, we use, "Don't be in a hurry", which is a polite way to say "You don't need to make yourself do [xx] faster." Often used when having a guest over at your house/office/etc (also used sarcastically, like a teacher telling a student that they have detention for the next few hours): "Don't be in a hurry to leave." In short: "rush" = more intense version of "hurry" [Let me know if you have any questions, or if you're confused about what I said. I'll try my best to explain!]

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14 Tips for Test Taking Success

Worried about getting through your next big exam? Here are 14 test taking strategies that can help you do your best on your next test.

Mary Sharp Emerson

From pop quizzes to standardized tests, exams are an important part of the life of every high school student.

The best way to ensure that you’ll get the grade you want is to understand the material thoroughly. Good test taking skills, however, can help make the difference between a top grade and an average one. Mastering these skills can also help reduce stress and relieve test-taking anxiety. 

In this blog, we’ve divided our tips for test taking into two categories: seven things you can do to prepare for your next exam and seven things you should do once the test begins. We’ve also included four strategies that can help with test taking anxiety.

We hope these test taking tips will help you succeed the next time you are facing an exam, big or small!

Seven Best Strategies for Test Prep

You’ve probably heard the quote (originally credited to Alexander Graham Bell): “Preparation is the key to success.”

When it comes to test taking, these are words to live by. 

Here are the seven best things you can do to make sure you are prepared for your next test.

1. Cultivate Good Study Habits

Understanding and remembering information for a test takes time, so developing good study habits long before test day is really important. 

Do your homework assignments carefully, and turn them in on time. Review your notes daily. Write out your own study guides. Take advantage of any practice tests your teacher gives you, or even create your own. 

These simple steps, when done habitually, will help ensure that you really know your stuff come test day. 

2. Don’t “Cram”

It might seem like a good idea to spend hours memorizing the material you need the night before the test.

In fact, cramming for a test is highly counterproductive. Not only are you less likely to retain the information you need, cramming also increases stress, negatively impacts sleep, and decreases your overall preparedness.

So avoid the temptation to stay up late reviewing your notes. Last minute cramming is far less likely to improve your grade than developing good study habits and getting a good night’s sleep.

3. Gather Materials the Night Before

Before going to bed (early, so you get a good night’s sleep), gather everything you need for the test and have it ready to go. 

Having everything ready the night before will help you feel more confident and will minimize stress on the morning of the test. And it will give you a few extra minutes to sleep and eat a healthy breakfast.

4. Get a Good Night’s Sleep

And speaking of sleep…showing up to your test well-rested is one of the best things you can do to succeed on test day.

Why should you make sleep a priority ? A good night’s sleep will help you think more clearly during the test. It will also make it easier to cope with test-taking stress and anxiety. Moreover, excellent sleep habits have been shown to consolidate memory and improve academic performance, as well as reduce the risk of depression and other mental health disorders. 

5. Eat a Healthy Breakfast

Like sleeping, eating is an important part of self-care and test taking preparation. After all, it’s hard to think clearly if your stomach is grumbling.

As tough as it can be to eat when you’re nervous or rushing out the door, plan time in your morning on test day to eat a healthy breakfast. 

A mix of complex carbohydrates and healthy protein will keep you feeling full without making you feel sluggish. Whole wheat cereal, eggs, oatmeal, berries, and nuts may be great choices (depending on your personal dietary needs and preferences). It’s best to avoid foods that are high in sugar, as they can give you a rush of energy that will wear off quickly, leaving you feeling tired.

And don’t forget to drink plenty of water. If possible, bring a bottle of water with you on test day.

6. Arrive Early

Arriving early at a test location can help decrease stress. And it allows you to get into a positive state of mind before the test starts. 

Choose your seat as soon as possible. Organize your materials so they are readily available when you need them. Make sure you are physically comfortable (as much as possible). 

By settling in early, you are giving yourself time to get organized, relaxed, and mentally ready for the test to begin. Even in a high school setting, maximizing the time you have in the test classroom—even if it’s just a couple of minutes—can help you feel more comfortable, settled, and focused before the test begins. 

7. Develop Positive Rituals

Don’t underestimate the importance of confidence and a positive mindset in test preparation. 

Positive rituals can help combat negative thinking, test anxiety, and lack of focus that can easily undermine your success on test day. Plan some extra time to go for a short walk or listen to your favorite music. Engage in simple breathing exercises. Visualize yourself succeeding on the test. 

Your rituals can be totally unique to you. The important thing is developing a calming habit that will boost your confidence, attitude, and concentration when the test begins.

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Seven Best Test-Taking Tips for Success

You have gotten a good night’s sleep, eaten a healthy breakfast, arrived early, and done your positive test-day ritual. You are ready to start the test! 

Different types of tests require different test taking strategies. You may not want to approach a math test the same way you would an essay test, for example. And some computerized tests such as SATs require you to work through the test in a specific way.

However, there are some general test taking strategies that will improve your chances of getting the grade you want on most, if not all, tests. 

1. Listen to the Instructions

Once the test is front of you, it’s tempting to block everything out so you can get started right away. 

Doing so, however, could cause you to miss out on critical information about the test itself.

The teacher or proctor may offer details about the structure of the test, time limitations, grading techniques, or other items that could impact your approach. They may also point out steps that you are likely to miss or other tips to help improve your chances of success. 

So be sure to pay close attention to their instructions before you get started.

2. Read the Entire Test

If possible, look over the entire test quickly before you get started. Doing so will help you understand the structure of the test and identify areas that may need more or less time. 

Once you read over the test, you can plan out how you want to approach each section of the test to ensure that you can complete the entire test within the allotted time.

3. Do a “Brain Dump”

For certain types of tests, remembering facts, data, or formulas is key. For these tests, it can be helpful to take a few minutes to write down all the information you need on a scrap paper before you get started. 

Putting that important information on paper can relieve stress and help you focus on the test questions without worrying about your ability to recall the facts. And now you have a kind of “cheat sheet” to refer to throughout the test!

4. Answer the Questions You Know First

When possible, do a first pass through the test to answer the “easy” questions or the ones you know right away. When you come to a question that you can’t answer (relatively) quickly, skip it on this first pass. 

Don’t rush through this first pass, but do be mindful of time—you’ll want to leave yourself enough time to go back and answer the questions you skipped. 

* It’s important to remember that this technique is not possible on some tests. Standardized computer-based tests often do not allow you to skip questions and return to them later. On these types of tests, you will need to work through each problem in order instead of skipping around. 

5. Answer the Questions You Skipped

Once you’ve done a first pass, you now have to go back and answer the questions you skipped.

In the best case scenario, you might find some of these questions aren’t as challenging as you thought at first. Your mind is warmed up and you are fully engaged and focused at this point in the test. And answering the questions you know easily may have reminded you of the details you need for these questions.

Of course you may still struggle with some of the questions, and that’s okay. Hopefully doing a first pass somewhat quickly allows you to take your time with the more challenging questions.

6. Be Sure the Test is Complete

Once you think you’ve answered all the questions, double check to make sure you didn’t miss any. Check for additional questions on the back of the paper, for instance, or other places that you might have missed or not noticed during your initial read-through.

A common question is whether you should skip questions that you can’t answer. It’s not possible to answer that question in a general sense: it depends on the specific test and the teacher’s rules. It may also depend on the value of each individual question, and whether your teacher gives partial credit.

But, if you’re not penalized for a wrong answer or you are penalized for leaving an answer blank, it is probably better to put something down than nothing.

7. Check Your Work

Finally, if you have time left, go back through the test and check your answers. 

Read over short answer and essay questions to check for typos, points you may have missed, or better ways to phrase your answers. If there were multiple components to the question, make sure you answered all of them. Double check your answers on math questions in case you made a small error that impacts the final answer. You don’t want to overthink answers, but a doublecheck can help you find—and correct—obvious mistakes.

Four Ways to Cope with Test-Taking Anxiety

Nearly every student gets nervous before a test at some point, especially if the exam is an important one. If you are lucky, your pre-test nervousness is mild and can be mitigated by these test taking tips. 

A mild case of nerves can even be somewhat beneficial (if uncomfortable); the surge of adrenaline at the root of a nervous feeling can keep you focused and energized.

For some students, however, test taking anxiety—a form of performance anxiety—can be debilitating and overwhelming. This level of anxiety can be extremely difficult to cope with. 

However, there are a few things you can do before and during a test to help cope with more severe stress and anxiety:

1. Take a Meditation or Sitting Stretch Break

Take a minute or two before or even during a test to focus on your breathing, relax tense muscles, do a quick positive visualization, or stretch your limbs. The calming effect can be beneficial and worth a few minutes of test time. 

2. Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Ones

Learn to recognize when your brain is caught in a cycle of negative thinking and practice turning negative thoughts into positive ones. For example, when you catch yourself saying “I’m going to fail”, force yourself to say “I’m going to succeed” instead. With practice, this can be a powerful technique to break the cycle of negative thinking undermining your confidence.

3. Mistakes are Learning Opportunities

It’s easy to get caught up in worrying about a bad grade. Instead, remind yourself that it’s ok to make mistakes. A wrong answer on a test is an opportunity to understand where you need to fill in a gap in your knowledge or spend some extra time studying. 

4. Seek Professional Help

Test taking anxiety is very real and should be taken seriously. If you find that your anxiety does not respond to these calming tips, it’s time to seek professional help. Your guidance counselor or a therapist may be able to offer long-term strategies for coping with test taking anxiety. Talk with your parents or guardians about finding someone to help you cope.

Following these test taking tips can’t guarantee that you will get an A on your next big test. Only hard work and lots of study time can do that. 

However, these test taking strategies can help you feel more confident and perform better on test day. Tests may be an inevitable part of student life, but with preparation and confidence, you can succeed on them all!

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Why Some Companies Grow Amid Uncertainty — and Others Don’t

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A survey of 3,000 global executives suggests that it’s not strategic thinking that sets them apart. It’s their inclination to move quickly.

When you cannot base strategy on reasonably certain premises — or when those reasonable premises are undone by unforeseeable events — what is a company to do? You still have to make plans, allocate capital, and invest for the future. Some argue that agility is the key to thriving in disruptive times, but if all you do is pivot, you are just going around in circles. The annual AlixPartners Disruption Index surveys 3,000 global executives about what is knocking them sideways. Among other things, it shows that three out of five say that it is increasingly challenging to know which disruptive forces to prioritize. Amid all this, there is a group of companies doing very well: about one in five said their companies lead their industry in revenue growth. In this article, the authors dig into that 2024 data to find out what sets these companies apart, and what other companies can learn from them about setting growth strategy in an uncertain world.

Strategic planning plays a key role in helping companies anticipate and manage business cycles. But forces like emerging digital technologies, climate change, and deglobalization — not to mention “black swan” events like the Covid-19 pandemic and wars — have turned a rolling sea into a choppy one, where companies are beset by currents, crosscurrents, riptides, and squalls. This multiplicity of related, unrelated, and inter-related difficulties have one thing in common: They are unpredictable.

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Exhausted, hungry and sleep-deprived: UCLA student super-commuters search for relief

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Sofia Gevorgian’s life as a college student revolves around her nearly one-hour commute to and from UCLA’s campus in Westwood and her family home in the San Fernando Valley.

During her first year, she would race home after the last class of the day around noon, forgoing clubs and social events typically hosted in the evening so she could beat traffic and get home in 30 minutes rather than an hour or more. This year, she’s trying a different strategy: stay at school until 7:30 p.m. to attend office hours and club meetings, and sometimes even later to participate in intramural soccer games.

But the 10-hour-plus school day takes its toll on her, she said.

“I’m just sacrificing so much energy,” she said. “Making the drive home at night when you’re tired is in and of itself exhausting, coupled in with being on campus all day to attend classes and clubs. It’s all a lot.”

To alleviate stresses on student commuters who — unlike campus resident students — have no place to settle down and can feel isolated, UCLA is creating “BruinHubs” where they can rest and study before and after class. The hubs are complete with napping pods, study tables, charging stations, snacks, a microwave and a refrigerator to store meals for their long day on campus.

“Naturally disadvantaged academically by their commute, they don’t have enough time in their days to sleep, study or get together with their study groups,” Dana Cuff, a professor of architecture and urban design at UCLA, said at a recent UC Regents meeting.

The need is great. Nearly half of UCLA’s undergraduate students and the majority of its graduate students live off campus — and 43% of those students commute more than an hour each way, Cuff said.

The push to expand commuter hubs comes as UCLA students, staff and faculty face a lack of affordable housing near campus, said Monroe Gorden, vice chancellor of student affairs.

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Fourth-year student Darlene Luna Barahona lives in Santa Clarita. She hits the freeways around 7 a.m. to brave her hour-and-a-half commute to campus. The 21-year-old transferred from College of the Canyons, a community college in Santa Clarita, last school year with a financial aid package that she would rather go toward her tuition than university-affiliated housing — which can cost more than $1,800 per month.

Before starting her part-time job at UCLA’s Transfer Student Center this year, the BruinHub in the John Wooden Center, also home to UCLA’s main gym, was Barahona’s go-to spot after classes to wait out traffic.

“This is my pod,” she laughed, pointing to the pink resting pod in the corner. “I would come here a lot and sit and work on homework and prepare for midterms and finals.”

The resting pods are carved wooden capsules with a small curtain for privacy. Inside the pod, a reading light and outlet allow students to work lying down or sitting up. The colorful furniture and polka dots painted on the tall white walls under fluorescent lighting give a playful feel to the hub.

Identified by UCLA’s Undergraduate Students Association Council as a pressing need, this BruinHub opened in fall 2021 with council funding in an under-used racquetball court. It is open from 5:15 a.m. for early commuters to 1 a.m. A second BruinHub was re-purposed inside a conference room and opened this winter quarter in the Strathmore Building, which also houses UCLA’s Basic Needs Center that provides emergency housing and food for students in need.

A shortage of campus study spaces, particularly during finals, and a lack of places where students could prepare food made it difficult for student commuters to get work done, eat, lie down and recharge phones and laptops.

“There’s a time I didn’t bring food at all, because I didn’t want to spend money on campus, so I would just bring snacks because I knew I needed to eat and I didn’t want to carry my lunch with me the whole day,” Barahona said of her time before she discovered the BruinHubs.

Dominique Peñate, program coordinator for commuter support and programs, knows the struggles of student commuters all too well, having commuted from South Gate before graduating from UCLA in 2022.

“Some students stack their classes and try to only come in twice a week to save on gas and parking, and I used to do the same,” she said.

Gevorgian said the BruinHubs are a good start toward addressing student commuter needs. But she called on the university to offer more online class availability for commuter students and more lenient in-person attendance policies, particularly when bad weather makes driving dangerous. She also advocates for student commuters to have priority to register for UCLA’s limited online course offerings.

“We had the atmospheric rain, really heavy floods last month and professors were still requiring students to come in person and that is a danger to the students themselves,” Gervorgian said. “And if they do choose to stay home, then they would be missing out on class, so that leaves a negative educational impact on the students.”

“I feel like UCLA underestimates how essential it is to have online classes as an option,” Barahona said. “For commuters, it’s just easier to have that option for Zoom.”

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UCLA is in discussions to build more BruinHubs in its libraries, in its new 11-story Trust Building in downtown L.A. and at its satellite campus at the former Marymount California University site in Rancho Palos Verdes , Peñate said.

The BruinHubs are not intended to be a substitute for students in need of housing, but to allow the university to tap into underused spaces and re-create them into a space that can help student commuters, Gorden said.

“The BruinHub allows us to think about those niche areas where sometimes students make conscious decisions of where they are living,” he said. “But we do have a need to think about the longer-term housing needs of our students.”

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